It is so true the saying “Men are from Mars and Women from Venus” as we both have different love languages and how we perceive romance to be. For a man it can be touch or simple gestures to even just a look. For females it can get complicated for a male for what one thinks they like today can change tomorrow. Romance is a way of showing someone you care, not always in a sensual manner or an expectation of something, just someone that they want to be around and love their company.
Romance is all about emotions, touching the feelings within a person, when romance falls to the side so does intimacy and a close bond slowly drifts away as the emotions are no longer there. Each person has their unique way of showing romance and also receiving it. As time goes by most people feel that it is no longer there, it is there just in another form or expressed in a different manner. To keep romance alive and kicking there needs to be communication and also sometimes a surprise element.
Have you ever wondered why your partner loves unexpected gifts or a show of love? You do it to keep the romance alive and they love it for they feel the romance still there, not consciously it just feels normal. Even if you don’t shower them with what is normally classed as romance, your quirky gestures can be all that is needed. Romance is a primal emotion, the feeling of being loved by someone not just lusted after.
Romantic gestures can be a holding of hands, kissing in public, hugs, surprising them in one form or another to even opening a door or letting them walk through first. It can be really anything that you have noticed your partner loves, it may not be exactly what you class as romantic but your partner will respond so differently to you then normal. Love will beam from them.
Remember variety is the spice of life and also very fun to express.
Believe it or not men like romance just as much as women. For them it can be very simple, favourite dinner, getting a drink, watching their tv show. Not all have to be the big wow factor. “Simple men like simple pleasures as they say”, and most men are actually happy just to be with their partner or allowed to go somewhere with their friends.
The easiest way to bring romance back into your life or even to continue the romance is …… Keep it simple and often, not so they get sick of it but in a way that is appreciated and unexpected. It is no use doing it every day for after a short time period it becomes normal. Spontaneity is the Key, show love, be loving just every now and then do something completely different that you know will fill them with joy and the sensation of being loved and wanted. Yes it is that simple. Men just seem to over complicate it and also as they grew up showing emotions was not the cool thing to do.
Sometimes confusion happens due to the way Tv portrays romance, there is never an ordinary kiss or a simple gift or dinner date, they are all the extreme versions. Yet most people are happy to have the company of their partner expressing romance that relates to them, not an idea from somewhere else. Sadly this is one of the biggest reasons romance is not always there for a male can feel like it is not good enough or that the other person will not like it.
I do find it amazing from another angle how spirit will guide you and present you with ideas and opportunities to show romance or to receive romance. The signs are always there if you seek them out and pay attention and follow you own heart.
A few simple things you can do to bring romance back into your life –
Step back and actually observe your partner, see what they love.
Keep it simple for the simple things in life bring the greatest pleasure.
“I love you” spoken randomly will always bring a smile from your partner.
Ask your partner what they would like to do, instead of you suggesting or wanting to do it.
Do something just because they would love to do it. Shopping/ museums/ creative places come to mind as not something most men like to do, your partner may actually love to do it.
One final tip for everyone to think about.
If you agree to partake in anything that your partner would love to do make sure you do it with an open mind and heart. Stay in the present moment to and allow your attention and focus to be with them.
It is not useful to complain or be a pain when you are doing something romantic for your partner. You would not be doing it for love but because you have to.
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