Self-Love Boundaries:  Helping You Get Clarity in Your Relationship

Self-Love Boundaries: Helping You Get Clarity in Your Relationship

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Do you allow your partner to be overly dependent or reliant on you for help and support?  Do you

attempt to please your partner, putting yourself last and them first, even at your own expense?  Are

you feeling like you have no choices to bring about changes in situations, experiences or your

relationship?  Do you find yourself, for one reason or another, staying in or going back to a

relationship which no longer allows you to feel fulfilled, valued, supported, respected, or loved?

Are you holding back, bottling, swallowing or not expressing thoughts and feelings with your partner

when you feel upset, hurt, angry or confused?

These are some of the most common signs that you may need to create self-love boundaries so that

you are able to gain a clearer sense of who you are as an individual as well as within your

relationships.  Self-love boundaries are personal guidelines about how you need to receive

love, what you are prepared to accept, willing to tolerate, what makes you feel comfortable,

uncomfortable, peaceful or stressed.  They are fantastic tools to help you to be able to choose how

you will allow others to treat you, help you to define where you end and your partner begins and to

be able to accept support, nurturing and love in your relationship.  Self-love boundaries also help

you to take personal responsibility and respect yourself, as well as be able to easily recognise this in

others and attract (or stay in) healthy relationships.

The first and most important step in creating healthy boundaries of self-love, is to get to know what

is important for you in your everyday life and in your relationship.  To do this you need to be

consciously aware of and acknowledge where you are at right now and to be willing to take the steps

to learn what it is that you are comfortable.  You can do this by spending some focused time and

energy on looking at what you are comfortable with in the following areas:

 Physical - your body, personal space, physical touch, sexual orientation & expression,

privacy, clothing, shelter (home), environment, noise, body language, safety, money, time

 Mental and Emotional - values, beliefs, thoughts, ideas, feelings, decisions, relationships,

sense of responsibility, ability to be intimate with others

 Spiritual - religion, spiritual practices, connection to intuition, higher self, guides, spirit, god

(whatever god means to you)

Once you understand what you are comfortable with, what self-love looks like for you, it will make it

easier for you to be able to recognise the areas in your relationship where you need to establish

boundaries or where they can be improved.  As you learn what your boundaries are and commit to

strengthening them, each and every day, you are provided with an opportunity to build love for self,

honour, respect and value you, which brings more freedom for you to create healthy and meaningful

connections and relationships within your life.

Leanne, The Barefoot Medium, is a Psychic Medium, Love & Relationship expert, Spiritual Teacher,

Coach and Author as seen on Soul TV (http://www.soultv.com.au/?ref=13).  Contact Leanne for

readings, workshops, mentoring or coaching on 0419 762 504 or via

www.thebarefootmedium.com.au and Facebook:  Sense of Spirit: Flames of Love or Leanne, The

Barefoot Medium